I love reading. For the first while after Odin died I would try to read and would just end up repeating the same sentence over and over again, unable to concentrate or focus (I think at the time I was in the middle of reading something like Gone Girl or The Royal We). So I gave up for a while and only watched Unbreakable Kimmy Schmidt  on Netflix. I thought reading would be a good escape or a distraction but it didn’t work like that for me and I was sad to be on hiatus from books. Eventually I decided to try a book that my midwife gave me called They Were Still Born: Personal Stories about Stillbirth. At first I found it horribly sad (the title alone is a tear-jerker) and couldn’t imagine putting myself through reading about other people’s losses. But after a few hard cries the stories started to bring me comfort. Reading that book was the first time I didn’t feel alone in my grief. From there I started (and am still going strong) reading everything and anything I could get my hands on about infant loss, death, grief, and healing. If you’d like to recommend a book to me, I would love to hear from you. I add to this list whenever I finish a book (the top of the list is the most recent and all the items are clickable links), but feel free to add me as a contact in Goodreads.


Joy at the End of the Rainbow by Amanda Ross-White

Juniper: The Girl Who Was Born Too Soon (TW: this book is about premature birth, not loss)

Expecting Sunshine by Alexis Marie Chute

Option B by Sheryl Sandberg, Adam M. Grant 

Michael Rosen’s Sad Book

The Rules Do Not Apply by Ariel Levy

Poor Your Soul by Mira Ptacin

Vessels: A Love Story by Daniel Raeburn

An Exact Replica of a Figment of My Imagination by Elizabeth McCracken

They Were Still Born: Personal Stories about Stillbirth by Janel C. Atlas

Three Minus One: Stories of Parents’ Love and Loss by Dafna Michaelson Jenet

Knocked Up, Knocked Down: Postcards of Miscarriage and Other Misadventures from the Brink of Parenthood by Monica Murphy LeMoine

Still: A Collection of Honest Artwork and Writings from the Heart of a Grieving Mother by Stephanie Paige Cole

The Chronology of Water by Lidia Yuknavitch

Walking Distance: Pilgrimage, Parenthood, Grief, and Home Repairs by David Hlavsa

Shadow Child by Beth Powning

Our Heartbreaking Choices by Christie Brooks

The Year of Magical Thinking by Joan Didion

Tiny Beautiful Things: Advice on Love and Life from Dear Sugar by Cheryl Strayed

The Light Between Oceans by M.L. Stedman

Grief is the Thing With Feathers by Max Porter

It’s Okay to Laugh (Crying is Cool Too) by Nora McInerny Permort

Self-help/Medical/Workbook/Mental Health/Grief

There Is No Good Card for This: What To Say and Do When Life Is Scary, Awful, and Unfair to People You Love by Emily McDowell

The Prenatal Bombshell: Help and Hope When Continuing or Ending a Precious Pregnancy After an Abnormal Diagnosis by Stephanie Azri

Empty Cradle, Broken Heart: Surviving the Death of Your Baby by Deborah L. Davis

Coping with Infertility, Miscarriage, and Neonatal Loss: Finding Perspective and Creating Meaning by Amy Wenzel

Healing Your Grieving Heart After Stillbirth: 100 Practical Ideas for Parents and Families by by Alan D. Wolfelt

Perinatal Loss: A Handbook for Working With Women and Their Families by Sheila Broderick & Ruth Cochrane

On Coming Alive: Journaling Through Grief: 100 Prompts to Guide You From Darkness to Light
by Lexi Behrndt